Being Resilient

Being “resilient”? Resiliency is the ability to become strong again after something bad happens such as that of a rubber band. We, humans, should be change adept for us to adapt easily. First I would like to congratulate each and every one before me today for being resilient and being able to adapt in this world full of miseries, insecurities, and unfortunate events. Congrats! You’re living life itself.

“Conquer yourself, not the world” as Rene Descartes once said. The first time I’ve heard this, I’ve been confused. It was stuck on my mind for quite long. I was confused on how to relate it to my life and to one’s life. And then it hit me; majority of us have been through a lot of ups and downs. Flaws, doubts, and insecurities, we’ve all been there. Growing up being the middle child, I’ve always known the feeling of being left out and it feels as if being insecure has been my hobby. I’m insecure on how I look, speak, and how I am interpreted by other people. I’ve always been doubtful of my own capabilities. I’m always afraid- afraid that people will make fun of my wrong doings, misjudge me and compare me to my siblings. I was once told that people tend to judge people when they are insecure. I, myself, am guilty too. Guilty that I somehow misinterpreted and judged other people too. Yet, of course, not to the point that I’ve degraded them.

I’ve been talking for quite a while now. Maybe some might be wondering what this big fuss is about. I’m trying to imply that nobody’s perfect. The world is an ocean filled with crabs- those who bring down people for them to feel better. Crab mentality in short-people killing, falsifying, victimizing, abusing and hurting other people just to make themselves feel better. I would like you to realize that the HATE agenda is real. But at the end of the day, YOU are your longest commitment. No matter how many tragic things have happened to you and how many times you’ve been misinterpreted by other people. You don’t need somebody else to define yourself. Self-love should be in control rather than self-pity. You need to embrace and love yourself first before you can love another. You need to fully accept yourself before you could finally say that you’ve conquered the world.